"My new guy isn't' all that wild so should I lie about how sexually adventurous I was in the past?" 
A predatory MILF? Or a teacher seducing her male pupil who's desperate for an A? (Gosh, I love that one.) Maybe it's the age! power sexual dynamics your boyfriend loves and not teenage girls. If he still won't relent, you need to remind him that he's dating you, not Hannah Montana. Don't judge him; instead, talk about the complex it's starting to give you. With any luck, he'll act like an adult about it-by allowing you to do the same 

QUESTION: My boyfriend is usually sweet, but every so often, he acts like a jerk. He also has the smallest penis I've ever seen. I often wonder if that's what gets him so mad. Could something like that affect a guy's personality? 

ANSWER: He certainly wouldn't be the first person to be bitter about his size. You've heard of penis envy, right? Well, guys have it too. Many dudes place a great deal of importance on their length and girth, and if he's feeling like he doesn't measure up down there, he might feel like he doesn't measure up anywhere-hence the mood swings and the lashing out. I'm left wondering how often he gets angry and how long it lasts when he does. Everybody has bad days, but if he's frequently surly, then he may have more problems than simply being a little light in the boxers. He could be depressed or unbalanced or suffer from a host of other psychological problems that can't be solved with a penis pump and flattering lighting. You want to draw as little attention as possible to his anatomy, so be sure to tell him how good he is in bed-if that's the case-without referencing his penis.

Then answer this question: If he had a porn worthy member, what would you attribute his bad moods to?

Figuring that out might give you some insight and help you both work toward a solution. 

"Men are as sensitive to penis issues as women are to their appearance"


QUESTION: I was very sexually adventurous in the past I've settled down to the point where I'm happy being with just one guy, but the one I'm with now isn't all that wild. I'd like to suggest some new things, but I know he'll ask if I've ever done them before. Should I lie or is there a way to tell him that won't freak him out? 

ANSWER: I'm not sure I agree with your assumption that he'll ask how you know so many crazy moves. I think he'll just be grateful you know them at all. Don't get me wrong: Men do not enjoy thinking of their girlfriends doing, um, acrobatic things with other dudes. But while women often want to know everything about their guy's sexual past, the majority of men are more than happy with a policy of don't ask, don't tell. So you won't need to lie. And if he does inquire, deflect his question, because he doesn't really want to know-he just wants to tie reassured. Besides, sex is different with every per. son...and good sex is even better with someone you care about and with whom you can really relax. Far be it from me to say that casual sex can't be great, but you've clearly had your fair share of it. Performing old moves in the new context of a committed relationship might actually make you feel-and act--like you're doing things you've never done before. .